headaches and solutions for head pain and chiari symptoms complaints

No matter how many times our kids complain about headaches, we have to go through the same list of questions with them.

1. Where does it hurt?
2. How bad is it hurting?
3. When did it start bothering you?

These are my basic three questions that begin the process of how to get them comfortable and functional again. Now, when we started this process, in the begin NJ ING it was new to us. The kids fell into a routine of going to lay in bed a lot and being more "sedentary". We dispensed a lot of Ibuprofen and the kids took cyproheptadine.

Now, first off, I always make sure that if they truly need medicine that theyou get it. So, like I said in the beginning we did daily meds and ibuprofen as needed. Acedomedafin Didn't seem to work as well.

Now, giving daily meds get old real fast. Having chronically ill kids gets old even faster. Learning to cater to it will only "feed" the complaint monster. The thing with kids and even adults (using myself as an example for adults and no I do not have chiari but I battle with my own issues) is that if you are busy you think less about your problems. Does it mean your problems don't exist? No but it does mean that running to the doctor and popping pills all day are temporary solutions that get old fast. Finding the right doctor and medication combo doesn't solve problems just symptoms.


So here's what we do and suggestions for others from a mom point of view opinion.

1. Ask the where, how, and when questions.
2. Develop a plan for how your going to distract from the problem first and try to avoid meds if possible.
3. Don't try just one or two distractions. Come up with new and interesting ideas for those super hard days where your not getting the response you need.

Examples of distractions
computer or phone games
special movie or kids show to lay down until pain passes ...sedentary solution
playdough fun for young children, crochet or 3 models for older kids or adults
board game not computer or puzzle or book puzzle like sudden without the screenlighting
going for a short walk outdoors
Going to sit outside
Drinking a warm drink
making a small snack

For unexpected activities, write a letter and mail it to a friend Or call a friend to come play or go for a drive to get a snow cone or go wash the car. Just something out of the ordinary  (car washing is not ordinary for me lol)

Always have a trick in your bag to pull out. Your biggest enemy for headache control is uncertainty, and lack of Preparation.

Other issues that cause complaining with the chiari is when people and children are bored. Also, have a lack of routine is not good for kids with chronic problems or parents either because it causes anxiety and depression. How the heck does that happen without a schedule? Well let me give you the facts that we went through and where we are now.

4 years ago, my chiari child with the MOST complaints, started with one complaint. I heard it all the time, constantly and I catered to it. "Mom my tummy hurts". Hmm ok I thought maybe constipation. Nope. Maybe a bug. Nope. Maybe indigestion. Nope. Days turned into weeks. I homeschool ed the kids at the time and didn't really have a schedule where we did the same thing every day. We accomplished our schoolwork after, the kids just free played. Looking back, when friends were over, my mom came to visit, we went on a short trip, we were in a store, etc...no complaints really. Some but not always. Except the car she hated the car. Looking back the seat belts were I think putting pressure on her to sit a certain way that affected her neck position causing her stomach pain later diagnosed as abdominal migraines. Anyways, when we were at home she complained to the point it was like a habit. Mom much belly hurts, my legs bother me, my neck hurts, I have no feeling I  my arm, I have a headache. It overwhelmed me and I think I went to the doctor with the kids weekly. My routine I imagined with housewife duties, homeschool fun and going to do things as a fami k you when dad got home was something not possible. I became a prisoner of looking for escape. it felt like the kids were never happy, I was never happy and my husband got the brunt of my bad mood because he got to get away from it daily.
I felt like he didn't understand. He would get home and the kids were instantly cured. It caused me to question myself, question my kids truthfulness on these issues they claimed to have. then one day we were out eating and my husband had to tell my daughter to quit complaining to me. She literally said her belly hurt, her Neck hurt, her head was hurting her etc was a problem. She reported this to me about every five minutes! I remember telling him, "see what she does to me all the time".

There was no break for me at night. My youngest daughter who had started saying she wasn't feeling good that same year I thought she was mimicking her sister. Until she began to wake up in the middle of the night. Screaming. In pain with her head hurting. I remember that my life felt out of control. Our family had no rules really. For us that caused the kids to focus on their problems exasperated by their bordem and my unwillingness to want to do anything for the fun part since any extra time for fun was spent catering to illness.

Fast forward to this year. I am working full time. The kids go to school. We are down to maybe one or two times the get ibuprofen. It is still weekly though.  Since moods are better, we play board games, go outside a lot, have fun finding fun things to do like birthday parties and going places. The headaches went from our primary focus to our last facus. Now we are a year out of surgery, but our distractions have increased our love of learning and for each other. I can say I have a goal of figuring out how some natural remedies will come into play.  Hoping to get off Ibuprofen.  However, it seems like Summer is easier than Winter. I believe vitamin D is a factor in this.

I pray for all our chiari families that visit us from all over the world!!

Love from us~!~